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The Queen's Code- Paper Back The long-standing war between the sexes is the stuff of legend. In TV ads, sitcoms and chick flicks everywhere, we've all seen the images - the long suffering woman and the clueless, insensitive man. But what if it's all a misunderstanding? In this fairy tale for the contemporary woman, Kimberlee seeks advice and discovers a treasure chest of e
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Kindle Edition, 359 pages
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October 27th 2013
by PAX Programs, Inc.
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Every woman (and man) should read this book. I agree with another reviewer in regards to "puking" to get through it but I think Alison wanted to create a book in a format that was more in line with what the average woman in America reads. For a woman like myself who rarely, if ever, reads fiction, it was hard at times to get through the story into the meat of the material. But I have also been through most of Alison's PAX workshops and I could not be more serious when I say she is one of the mos
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I hated the way this book was written but the information in the book was enlightening. BUT, let's be honest here, had this been written any other way, it would have been a pamphlet. I do feel like I understand men more than I used to. I would have liked a textbook style book or at least a page in the book that outlined the language of heroes a little better. The words that comprised the language of heroes were interspersed through the whole book, so I feel like it would behoove her, and all rea
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Some good info.some bad info
(Wife’s review): While I can see some value in what is being taught I almost couldn’t finish the book.It carries with it an implication that women are responsible for men-how they feel, act etc. and gives no ownership to the men. I was highly disturbed by the brief but obvious statements that implied justification and acceptance of domestic violence, and the statement where men who abuse children might not realize what they’re doing-giving men an excuse for disgusting ...more
(Wife’s review): While I can see some value in what is being taught I almost couldn’t finish the book.It carries with it an implication that women are responsible for men-how they feel, act etc. and gives no ownership to the men. I was highly disturbed by the brief but obvious statements that implied justification and acceptance of domestic violence, and the statement where men who abuse children might not realize what they’re doing-giving men an excuse for disgusting ...more
I would have given it a one star just based on HOW it's written. You just want to puke trying to get through the story itself. But the lessons it teaches are very interesting. A little over the top, glorifying all men. But an interesting perspective to make you ponder the differences between men and women, most of which, I believe, are founded in some truth.
I finished this book months ago but I lost my notes on it and I wanted to give it a proper tearing-down but oh well, will have to go by memory. The premise is that women don’t allow men to be their best selves so end up turning princes into frogs. To be happy the book has several ideas, which I do actually relate to, but the trouble is that this is not the time for this book. In the age of Trump and the #metoo movement, a half page that references a child molester as “bad business” and other eup
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I really loved this book.
I understand all the reasons why you wouldn't: The fact that men and women think differently is not news. It has a cheesy story and simple writing. I personally just thought it was a wonderfully accessible plea to women to stop the cycle of fearing or judging men and creating expectations that leave us eternally disappointed. Beautiful reminder to extend the same kind of caring and trust toward men that we extend toward women in this age of empowerment, sisterhood, and f ...more
I understand all the reasons why you wouldn't: The fact that men and women think differently is not news. It has a cheesy story and simple writing. I personally just thought it was a wonderfully accessible plea to women to stop the cycle of fearing or judging men and creating expectations that leave us eternally disappointed. Beautiful reminder to extend the same kind of caring and trust toward men that we extend toward women in this age of empowerment, sisterhood, and f ...more
This book is beyond highly recommended,, it has crucial information for every women ,, it's worth being studied and to be included in every girl / women curriculum,, It's not about getting or pleasing a man .. It's about understanding your power , your effect on men, and how to use it to be happier , more in peace and more efficient toward your goals.
A book full of surprising insights about relationships and how men vs women think. The author is clearly not a professional writer, so the writing style and dialogs may seem simplistic, but the ideas are very much food for thought. Not sure if I agree with all the points in the book, but with most of them I do. Alison Armstrong also confirms Brene Brown's point that vulnerability and courage are the key to having fulfilling deep human connections (and a very happy life as a consequence). Definit
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Before I purchased "The Queen's Code", I read a lot of reviews. Interestingly, the ones that really stood out to me were negative... with a caveat. My review, as it turns out, is in total agreement with *those*.
This was one of the most-godawful-slogs-of-a-book to get through. (There. That is probably the meanest thing I have ever written about a book... but I'm sticking by it.) For someone who is truly a *fabulous* public speaker (and oh, my goodness, Alison Armstrong is certainly that), who has ...more
This was one of the most-godawful-slogs-of-a-book to get through. (There. That is probably the meanest thing I have ever written about a book... but I'm sticking by it.) For someone who is truly a *fabulous* public speaker (and oh, my goodness, Alison Armstrong is certainly that), who has ...more
Not just for women!
Fellas, get your hands on this book and don’t let go.
Alison Armstrong has cracked the code on how we live and operate...and I couldn’t believe how much I learned about myself and the way men behave through the reading of this.
Without question, the next relationship I enter, I will be reading this alongside my woman.
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida has been the most influential book I’ve ever read on being a man and relating to the opposite sex...
...and The Queen’s ...more
Fellas, get your hands on this book and don’t let go.
Alison Armstrong has cracked the code on how we live and operate...and I couldn’t believe how much I learned about myself and the way men behave through the reading of this.
Without question, the next relationship I enter, I will be reading this alongside my woman.
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida has been the most influential book I’ve ever read on being a man and relating to the opposite sex...
...and The Queen’s ...more
The information in this book was outstanding. But it is not well written and could benefit from some serious professional editing. If you want some great information on how women can relate better to men it is worth slogging through.
I am overwhelmed with mixed feelings! On one hand, I learned a lot about how to best communicate with men. I felt there were many valuable lessons and ideas that I have actually started to put into practice. On the other hand, what about the accountability of men? What about their role in understanding the female perspective? The book explains that once the feminine speaks to the masculine in their language then the feminine naturally arises and is joined. I can see that to some degree but I can
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While the over the top cheesiness of this book was a little off-putting, the information that it presents is essential. Reading and implementing it would transform every woman's life.
Reading books is not particularly my favorite past time. Coincidentally this book came at a pivotal time in my life with my family. After a family paradigm shift, I felt isolated and was grieving for the pillars of which our family was created. Nonetheless at this impasse was when a friend - and former student - gave me this book. As her former teacher I found this action to be quite humbling as she sat with me while I sobbed and my seven year old daughter crouched down beside me. I only relay t
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Absolutely beautiful information. Applied easily and found better connections IMMEDIATELY with my father, brother and my partner- thank you....I will be reading every book Alison publishes!
Very yummy book for women. It should be mandatory reading among ladies. But of course, for some it will be harder to accept the message and convert into “Queens” since their entire personalities depend on being a “Frog Farmer” and treating men like assholes. Ladies, you should read this book 🤗 and let yourselves inspired.
Wow. Powerful stuff. I find the storytelling very approachable. It could be a lot to take in, depending where you are on your journey. As a woman who has always loved (for the most part) who men are...this journey was not as arduous for me. However, it illuminated for me ways in which I do not fully honor them...and do not fully honor myself. I see the divide in how I interact with men in general and in how I interact with my partner. It pains me to see that the truly wonderful relationships I'v
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Twas A Gift for My Daughter, that Gave So Much to Me
Wow, it did not take long for me to realize as I started reading this book, that my making the decision to share this with daughter who was struggling in her marriage was also a blessing for me! As a father, you want your children to be happy especially your daughters. I am a healer, a life coach, and I had offered some advice to the couple and they had gotten so far off track that they could not hear the simplest of cures for the situation tha ...more
Wow, it did not take long for me to realize as I started reading this book, that my making the decision to share this with daughter who was struggling in her marriage was also a blessing for me! As a father, you want your children to be happy especially your daughters. I am a healer, a life coach, and I had offered some advice to the couple and they had gotten so far off track that they could not hear the simplest of cures for the situation tha ...more
Men are not hairy women. They are men. Not misbehaving women.
Women are externally motivated. Men are internal motivated.
Women have a spread focus. Men have a single focus.
What if there is a good reason for everything they do?
Ask your question and then just listen and listen and listen some more. When he pauses, count to 20 and wait. No multi tasking.
Emasculation/Objectification
Men tell stories for many reasons.
Men are nurtured - literally fed energy merely by being in the presence of a conten ...more
Women are externally motivated. Men are internal motivated.
Women have a spread focus. Men have a single focus.
What if there is a good reason for everything they do?
Ask your question and then just listen and listen and listen some more. When he pauses, count to 20 and wait. No multi tasking.
Emasculation/Objectification
Men tell stories for many reasons.
Men are nurtured - literally fed energy merely by being in the presence of a conten ...more
Aug 21, 2017
Liz (readwildly)
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it was ok
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self-help
The most useful information in this book is how to ask effectively for something that you need. But rather than wading through a bland chick-lit plot wrapped around some truly terrible gender/hetero-normative pontificating to get to it, I suggest you watch the author's YouTube video "Getting What You Need." It's what introduced me to her work in the first place, although now I'm regretting taking a closer look...
Although I have seen better written stories, this one is so packed with wonderful and precious information it makes it hard to put down. It is a great read for all woman wanting to partner with men for real.
Absolutely eye opening! Worth the read. Easy and clear. Sometimes funny, sometimes sad, as I came to some realizations. It has changed my approach to men dramatically....
Perhaps a little controversial, but if you can get on board with the concept, and the unusual "written like a novel" format, this book is awesome, and will be re-read more than once.
It may not be the best-written book, but the information is insightful and fascinating.
information is great but the characters are shallow and the book
is not well written. This would make a great novella.
is not well written. This would make a great novella.
I wish I'd read this when I was 15. Powerful, pertinent and potent!
This has been life altering.
I couldn’t put this book down. While life circumstances and a willingness for change made me practically starving for the wisdom in this book, I definitely appreciate Alison’s slower pace and use of plot/story to convey the important information. Providing “real life” examples through her characters made this valuable information so much more relatable and obtainable. Sure there where moments when I thought to myself, no one really talks like this. But I couldn’t hel ...more
I couldn’t put this book down. While life circumstances and a willingness for change made me practically starving for the wisdom in this book, I definitely appreciate Alison’s slower pace and use of plot/story to convey the important information. Providing “real life” examples through her characters made this valuable information so much more relatable and obtainable. Sure there where moments when I thought to myself, no one really talks like this. But I couldn’t hel ...more
Where has this been all my life?!?
I got this book on the recommendation of my sister and from the early pages until the end I have been blown away!
I found myself recognizing that I have instinctively done many of the right things but learning the right words really blew things open for me. I found myself using the techniques more with the women in my life because they frustrate me. Most of my life I have had a better relationship with men than women. Men are straightforward and don’t do drama f ...more
I got this book on the recommendation of my sister and from the early pages until the end I have been blown away!
I found myself recognizing that I have instinctively done many of the right things but learning the right words really blew things open for me. I found myself using the techniques more with the women in my life because they frustrate me. Most of my life I have had a better relationship with men than women. Men are straightforward and don’t do drama f ...more
I learned a lot from this book - some were common knowledge that I'd just forgotten, others just made so much sense and was an ah-ha moment. I quickly noticed changes with my partner and how we interacted when I implemented some of the ideas in this book.
The writing takes a little bit to get used to, as a seasoned self-help book reader and an avid fiction reader/writer the language is very simplistic and sounds a bit awkward or unrealistic in its narrative format at times. But I got used to it f ...more
The writing takes a little bit to get used to, as a seasoned self-help book reader and an avid fiction reader/writer the language is very simplistic and sounds a bit awkward or unrealistic in its narrative format at times. But I got used to it f ...more
Frog Farmer or Queen?
My friend recommended this book to me. W both entertain ourselves as self sufficient. Raised to be able to accomplish anything we needed to do, without others help. We were talking one day that the way we treat our significant others was more emasculating than helpful. She had shattered implementing the queens code and noticed a marked difference in her relationship, so felt i could benefit from it as well. It makes so much sense!
The narrative way of telling was difficult to ...more
My friend recommended this book to me. W both entertain ourselves as self sufficient. Raised to be able to accomplish anything we needed to do, without others help. We were talking one day that the way we treat our significant others was more emasculating than helpful. She had shattered implementing the queens code and noticed a marked difference in her relationship, so felt i could benefit from it as well. It makes so much sense!
The narrative way of telling was difficult to ...more
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